Very few people in the world make a true decision to change. They make attempts, a loose promise to “see how it goes.”
I tried to break up many times before I decided to break up.
When you decide something, you cut yourself off from any other possibility. There is no going back.
As Tony Robbins says, “When you make a true decision to storm the island you burn the boats.”
You don’t give yourself an out.
I have applied this philosophy to my life many times. The morning I decided to quit drinking was a moment I made a TRUE decision.
And I’ve never looked back.
I know it can be tempting to leave your options open.
So, instead of “breaking up” you “take a break.”
You and I both know that doesn’t work. In a relationship you must be in or you must be out, but you cannot be in and out.
So, making the decision once is what it takes. Of course, you will need to manage the decision you’ve made daily, as our friend John Maxwell says.
And that means you manage the ups and downs, you see what’s working and not working, and you continue to flex in the way you approach managing your emotions around staying broken up.
Go on and watch the video or more clarity.