Hi, I'm Heidi.
When I was a little girl, I was plagued by the question…
“whats wrong wrong with me?”I couldn’t figure out how to make people love me the way I want to be loved. I came to believe that being me wasn’t good enough and so I began to become someone else. These days I call them Attachment personality patterns (APPS). They are a way of behaving in relationships that resulted from trying to thrive, survive, connect or cope in our family of origin. And now, those behaviors are preventing us from having the relationships we deserve.
As a codependency coach, i help you identify and understand your unique APP and together, we reverse the subconscious programming preventing you from having the life and relationships you deserve..
I’m here to help you get tot he root of your relationship challenges and end toxic and dysfunctional patterns for good.
As an international business consultant, I’d march into the board room in my pencil skirt, set down my latest LV bag and run the world.
But that wasn’t the whole story.
The truth was, I was alone even though I went to bed with my 10 years too long boyfriend. I’d lay awake at night full of anxiety wondering what it would be like to be with someone willing to put me first.
I’d wake up with a hangover from the 2 bottles of wine I drank the night before hoping to forget about the fact I was totally resentful and burnt out.
I’d hide the rest of the brownies in the bottom of the trash and pour coffee grinds on them so I wouldn’t be tempted to binge again.
I’d suit up for battle the next day and soldier on.
No one knew what was really going on because I was an incredible performer.
I was the consummate people pleasing overachiever.
But no amount of success was enough, because I never felt enough.
I would lay my head on my pillow at night and wonder “Is this life? Is this really all there is?”
I knew what I wanted. I wanted two things: True love and authentic happiness.
It all came to a head in 2009, the economy crashed, I lost my my big money consulting career and all my self esteem went with it.
I had no idea who I was or what my value was without “what I did”.
I was in my thirties, childless, heartbroken, hungover, alone, and desperate to change.
I felt like I had wasted enough time and it was now or never to get my life together. For Real. No more faking it and going through the motions,
It was MY TURN to be happy.
I live LOUDLY and I don’t care who’s watching or what they’re thinking.
I’m able to be the mother I always wanted to my daughter.
I love DEEPLY. And I have a true partner who reflects the value I hold for myself.
I show up BOLDLY for the hundreds of people I serve through my books, workshops, retreats and private mentoring programs.
And I LET GO of the rest that no longer serves me.
Heidi Rain McGuirk (Love Coach Heidi)
Heidi McGuirk is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Addiction Professional and Master Certified Empowerment and Relationship Coach. She specializes in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. She is co-creator of the Revolutionary Family Program and Love Yourself First Empowerment School.
It’s her passion to equip and certify those who want to help others through her Empowerment Coach University.
Heidi held an esteemed faculty position at one of the world’s leading drug and alcohol treatment centers where she created empowerment programming and facilitated psychoeducational lectures, seminars and group therapy. This experience with thousands of clients over many years, led to the creation of much of her life changing curriculum and proprietary methods.
Heidi blends her vast professional experience, world class education and personal experience to create exceptional results with her students and clients..
She has a unique understanding and fresh perspective which helps her to truly get results with those she helps.
Her riveting style of using humor and candor encourages and inspires people to heal.
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