It's Time to break up with what's not's WORKING, LIVE THE LIFE YOU TRULY DESERVE and Love Yourself first (for once)!

How do you stop self-sabotaging, settling, struggling, or sucking it up to have the authentic happiness you really want?

are you ready to overcome codependency, and figure out who you really are?

Is this finally the path you’ve been looking for?

This path isn’t for everyone. It’s only for the those who feel called to take the walk with me.

How do you know you’re being called?

Because when I speak, you see yourself. If I’m speaking to you, I’m calling YOU. I am you. We are the same. I’m simply a little further down the path, calling to you in the dark, ready to light the rest of your way.

You’re successful at most things except the thing that matters most- loving yourself first. 

One of your biggest areas of struggle is putting yourself first. Everyone else’s needs come before your own and being last on the list is finally taking a toll on you.  All you really want is to finally have YOUR TURN.

In the mean time, all that settling and sucking it up created a ticking time bomb and You become self destructive or you self-sabotage locked in a pattern of success and failure, black and white, all or nothing. 

You struggle for balance in your relationships. You want a partner. A true partner, not someone you have to take care of or who ends up hurting, leaving or using you. You want to believe in love, but sometimes you worry it’s too late. 

You drink too much or use another vise  (shop, eat, medicate) and it’s starting to worry you. You need to take action, but you’re having a hard time finding something that works for you.

Your motto of  “suck it up buttercup” is costing you authentic happiness. You put on a happy face and say you’re FINE, but you’re not fine and you’re tired of pretending.

You people please, try and control everything, compete with others or try to be perfect and it’s creating anxiety or depression.

You give. You’re used to giving and attracting takers. Many times you believe the only one you can count on is you. You give and give, but it’s hard to receive. 

Because you are adept at taking care of everyone else, your self-sacrificing leads to your needs going to the wayside. Sometimes, you can get to the point when you let yourself go for so long that you feel like imploding exploding running. Or numbing.  

You sit on your truth. Though you may know you need to leave a bad situation, you stay for too long

You compare yourself to others, compete, and judge yourself without mercy. At the end of the day, you never feel like you’re enough.

Am I getting you? 

you’re in the right place.

Because, When you work with me you get to…

Stop self destructing for good

Overcome a sad, hurtful, or dysfunctional past.

Learn how to forgive people that have hurt you.

Uncover the real you.

Break up with what’s not working and never look back

Be authentically happy. No more faking it. Ever again.

Deepen, renew, or find your faith in yourself and others

Create unstoppable self esteem and courage

Forgive what needs forgiving. Heal. Move on. Let it go.

Create amazing relationships


How does a lack of self love show up?

Let’s get real. A Lack of love doesn’t show up how most of us think. From the outside looking in, things could appear pretty good! Especially if you’re used to putting on a happy face, being FINE, or sucking it up…buttercup.  But inside, you know something has to change. It’s finally YOUR time to live the life YOU really want!

It’s time to stop settling in that relationship or job, hoping things will change.

It’s time to stop keeping people at an arms length and learn to receive and allow.

It’s time to stop self destructing behind closed doors. Or shooting down your dreams before you have a chance to go after them.

How is this program different?

Here are the facts. You think no one gets you. And that’s partly true because you have very specific problems that most people don’t understand. You’re a complex person. You’ve been through a lot in your life.You’re an overcomer. You’re a survivor.

And although that’s incredible, it’s also left you with some significant challenges.

In fact, you have a hard time putting yourself first. Maybe you’ve even heard “You need to learn how to love yourself”, and you totally get that! But just as you decide to do that, you don’t know where to start.

The reality is…

You need a strategy that goes beyond the fluff and gets to the heart of what’s going on with you.

I created this program after facilitating over 1700 groups at one of the world’s leading drug and alcohol treatment centers.

There, I had a chance to coach thousands of clients on healthy relationships, self esteem, family issues, and love. Each week, the same issues would arise. Patterns in behavior became clear. There were specific ways clients were creating barriers to true happiness.

I created the Love YourSelf First Program as a way to walk beside you every step of the way. 

“Heidi, when I met you, little did I know the impact you would have on me.  You showed me how to love myself and because of that, I know how to love others. You taught me respect and how to effectively communicate in relationships. You are dynamic, energetic, and hilarious! You have such a unique way of teaching your lessons. I’ve learned so much from you. I love you, Heidi. Thank you for everything.” Patricia M.

Do you need to enroll in this program?

Trust. It’s a problem for you.

You pick the wrong people You remain Loyal to the wrong people 

You self destruct. Eat, shop, drink, isolate, run

You have anxiety You have low self esteem and it makes you settle

You want to have more confidence

You want to learn how to let peole in

You want to stop pushing people away

You want to shut the tape in your head off that’s always judging.

You want to worry less what others think

You want to stop being codependent

You’re ready to stop comparing yourself

You want to move on from the past.

Heal resentments. Let it go. 

You want to attract the RIGHT relationship

You want to stop wasting time You’re ready to be enough

It’s time to get busy uncovering the person you were born to be!

The PROMISE Method: 7 Self Love Vows on The Journey to Loving Yourself First

How does it work?

When you purchase the Love YourSelf First Program, you will have immediate access to download all of the teachings and workbooks.  You are encouraged to move through the lessons at your own pace. 

Because, these lessons are deep, intense, and worth marinating on. Please allow time in between lessons to digest and implement the material.

There are seven in depth Video Sessions covering each lesson. Each video is approximately one hour. Each lesson has its own workbook.

Once you purchase your program, you will have lifetime access to it. It will be yours forever. There are no refunds on digital products. But don’t worry, you won’t be wanting to do that anyway because the program is amazing and you will be so glad you are in it!

Once you enroll in LYF School (which also includes a live coaching group), the Semester will begin and we will meet each week in a virtual classroom. I use Zoom.

Inside the classroom, we will dive into the lessons, I will provide coaching and support, and be there live to answer all of your questions, live.

This is for you if you’re ready to…

Put an end to your relationship problems once and for all. Set and hold boundaries!

Create the life you’ve always wanted, on your terms!

Walk away from what no longer serves you without feeling guilty about it

Be loved the way YOU want to be loved

Say goodbye to feelings of inadequacy

Stop worrying and be in total control of your destiny

Rid yourself of depression or anxiety

Attract only people who see your real value

Rid yourself of negativity

I am no longer that broken, lonely girl! You have shown me what true unconditional love is and how to love myself. You supported me with tools to rebuild my courage, self-esteem, and confidence. Jennifer T.

The Program: The Details

Lesson 1: Once Upon a time

It’s story time! Every woman has a story about life and love. We learn how to do life, what it takes to be loved, and how life and love are “supposed to go”. Most of what we learned in NOT supporting what we want. In fact, it sabotages us! In this lesson, we will:

  • Uncover your subconscious beliefs about life, yourself, men, love, and relationships
  • Learn how you participate in your very own “INSANACYCLE” based on your particular story
  • How old habits die hard (What patterns are we repeating? and WHY on earth do we do that?)
  • The Subconscious Drivers in our life that lead to self-sabotage
  • Create a vision for your life the way YOU want it
  • Create new empowering beliefs to support you.

Lesson 2: Let it Go

  • Understand your resentments
  • Heal your past
  • Learn to see things in a totally new perspective
  • Release hurt, anxiety, and anger
  • Examine your current expectations
  • Manage your expectations going forward
  • Leave this session lighter. Free.
  • Move on

Lesson 3: Speak Your Truth

  • Learn to articulate what you think and how you feel
  • Gain insight into the emotional, psychological, and physical cost of people pleasing
  • Care less what it looks like or how it sounds
  • Examine what it means to fully be yourself
  • Learn how to set a boundary
  • Learn how to hold your bottom line
  • Leave this session empowered to be yourself

Lesson 4: Getting what you need and allowing
what you want

  • How do you really want?
  • What are you unwilling to tolerate anymore?
  • Is there a difference between wants and needs?
  • How are you currently meeting your needs?
  • What will it take to live the life you really want? Explore what lights you up and what drains you.
  • Learn exactly how to get your needs met. Every. Single. Time.

Lesson 5: Enough Already!

  • How do you behave when you believe you are inadequate?
  • How to overcome competition
  • How to handle jealousy
  • How to deal with a lack mentality and a scarcity problem
  • How to cultivate an abundance mindset, emotionally, physically, financially
  • Why we binge and how to stop

Lesson 6: Trust

  • Learn how to trust others, yourself, and the universe
  • Learn how to let people in
  • Develop your spirituality and learn what it means to let go and let God
  • Deepen your connection to your higher power
  • Sharpen your intuition and learn how to be guided by your inner wisdom.

Lesson 7: Gratitude and Presence

  • How to rid yourself of anxiety and depression
  • How to be grateful for every step on your particular path
  • Learn powerful state management tools
  • Learn Grounding techniques
  • Exactly what you need to do in order to follow through with new decisions you have made
  • How to take what you have learned and supercharge it to the next level
I just can’t thank you enough for opening up my heart. The way you teach is dynamic, creative, and fun. Thank you so much for your time, love, and encouragement. Jane C.

A Person Who Struggles and A Person Who Vows


  • Effortlessly magnetize the life you want to you
  • Get your needs met all the time
  • End all self destructive behavior once and for all
  • Have the courage to go after your dreams
  • Over come the fear of rejection
  • Attract righteous, integrity filled men who long to please you
  • Have true, lasting love.
  • Be totally you and have that be irresistible
  • Create and maintain your Happily Ever After


  • Have bad relationships
  • Feel unfulfilled
  • Lack trust. Wait for the other shoe to drop
  • Engage in self sabotage
  • Keep your distance from people
  • Compete for attention/try to be perfect
  • Operate out of jealousy and anger
  • Constantly feel hurt, let down and disappointed

I’m Heidi. And I’m going to teach you how to put yourself first for a change…

If you had met me in back in 2008, you would have thought I was a huge success story. As an expert in the Dating and Matchmaking Industry. I was masterful at helping others find love and I was rewarded for it. I was traveling the world, had a six figure income, Louis Vuitton luggage, my own home and a confident exterior. But that wasn’t the whole story.

The truth was, I was in a long term relationship with a man who constantly cheated on me, I was lonely and depressed. I felt unlovable and I used alcohol and food to fill a void.

No one knew what was really going on because I knew how to pretend to be “awesome” and put on a happy face. I was the consummate people pleasing overachiever.

But no amount of success was enough, because somehow, I always felt like I was falling short. I was never enough. I would lay my head on my pillow at night and wonder “Is this life? Is this really all there is?”

All I ever really wanted but never felt like I had was LOVE.

It all came to a head in 2009, when I lost my big money job, ended my relationship and moved back home to my fathers house. I was 35, heartbroken, alone, and desperate to change. I felt like I had wasted enough time and it was now or never to get my shit together…authentically. No more pretending. No more faking it.

And so, I began the journey to Happily Ever After. I had to overcome a lot of problems that were keeping me stuck.

  • I had issues around trying to be perfect all of time
  • I didn’t feel worthy unless I was earning love somehow
  • I didn’t trust anyone
  • I didn’t know how to be vulnerable
  • No one was meeting my expectations, including me
  • I didn’t know how to get my needs met without feeling needy or guilty
  • I didn’t know how to speak up for myself in a way that wasn’t aggressive or passive aggressive
  • I was living in the hurt of past relationships

I noticed there were 7 specific vows that developed as I was recovering. These 7 vows were a PROMISE I made to Love Myself. Once I healed myself, I started teaching the vows and my PROMISE Method to thousands of people who were trying to recover from their own addictions and relationship problems.

The goal of getting better isn’t to struggle. Recovery doesn’t have to be hard. It can be a joy.  The point of life isn’t always in reaching the destination. Sure, you may want to break up with alcohol, or food, or bad relationships. But wouldn’t it be aswesome to actually enjoy the journey?

The PROMISE Method is a series of 7 Vows you will take to Love Yourself First. As a result, you will heal ALL of your dysfunctional relationships and create the life you truly deserve. 

Today, I am a wife to my beloved husband who cherishes and adores me and mom to our beautiful daughter. I’m a joyful non-drinker. I’m a Master Relationship Coach. And I teach weekly classes at one of the world’s leading drug and alcohol treatment centers on self love, healthy relationships and family issues. For the past several years, I’ve helped change the lives of thousands of people I am enough. I am loved. I’m authentically happy and fulfilled. And now, it’s my mission, my joy, and my purpose to light your way to your Happily Ever After.