Codependency Coaching and Toxic Relationship Recovery
Codependency Coaching and toxic relationship recovery are our specialty. Trying to make a relationship work with dysfunctional person is like trying to dry off under a waterfall. You can’t. But that doesn’t stop you from trying because you’re determined. The thing is, even though you keep trying to fix your unhealthy relationship, it doesn’t work. And you end up feeling disappointed, hurt, resentful, anxious or confused.
You wonder how you can be so smart, and make other things work, yet you can’t make this work. You feel foolish every time you get sucked back in. You’ve reached the point where you need to answer the questions, “Should I stay or should I go?” and “Can this relationship ever work?”
You’re in the right place. Our mission is to empower and equip you to have the healthy relationships you deserve. Our goal is to increase awareness through codependency education, foster personal responsibility through masterful coaching and affect lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. If you want to begin your healing journey from a toxic or dysfunctional relationship, we can help.
We support you in all types of dysfunctional relationships whether that be with a parent, partner, child, coworker or friend. We find that one toxic relationship usually affects and impacts all others. But when you do the work of codependency recovery, everything changes and your life becomes what it’s meant to be: full of love, joy and the absolute freedom to love and be ALL of YOU.
What’s healthy and normal when it comes to relationships?
What is a Toxic or dysfunctional Person
Most people stay in dysfunctional relationships with a toxic person because they don’t know they’re in one. They just see it as being “difficult” or “complicated.” So, they stay in the relationship trying to fix it with no success. They torture themselves asking, “Should I stay or should I go?” Not knowing if the relationship can be saved is maddening. If you believe you may be in a relationship with a narcissistic or toxic person, click the image to learn the traits of a dysfunctional person to get clarity now.
What is Codependency?
Codependency is a way to function in dysfunction. It’s a normal response to abnormal people or circumstances in your life. Essentially, they are the ways in which we attempt to get love. And sometimes those ways lead us to one sided, hurtful relationships where we struggle to get our needs met. Learn more about the sneaky way codependency shows up and see if you identify with one of our “Attachment Personality Patterns”.
Dealing with addiction in your family
Everyone is affected and your whole world gets turned upside down. You never know the right thing to say or do, and everything feels like it’s not working. You just want to get your loved one back to normal but you have no idea what’s helping or hurting. If you could just get through to them, you know there would be hope! Click on the image to get answers now to some of the most commonly asked questions.
Schedule a 30 minute complimentary consultation
If you’re unsure about where to start, grab a coffee or a nice cup of tea and meet me on zoom for a complimentary 30 minute consultation. I’ll get to know your needs and we can determine the next steps.
The Perfectionist Attachment Personality Pattern: Overcoming Codependency
This is the last Pattern of all the Attachment Personality Patterns I have been teaching on over the past 8 weeks. And it’s been the most difficult. I have sat down to write about this pattern 4 times. And each time, I go and try to find where I was writing, I can’t...
The Pretender Attachment Personality Pattern: Overcoming Codependency
Even though I used to pride myself on having a built in bullshit detector the size of Texas, being able to spot a phony a mile away, I was regretfully unaware of all the ways I was bullshitting myself. I had suppressed my truth for so long that I forgot what it was....
Overcoming Codependency: The pleaser attachment personality pattern
In Coming to America, there’s a scene where Eddie Murphy is about to marry his prescribed bride. Before the “I dos”, the groom wants to make sure the bride is a good fit. So, he whisks her “backstage” to ask some questions. She starts, “All of my life I have been...
Understanding Codependency: The Clinger Attachment Personality Pattern.
There’s a funny portrayal of the clinger personality in the movie Wedding Crashers. The lead character attracts the affection of a young woman who comes on strong and never stops. She throws herself at him, uses her sexuality to enchant him and demands her be a couple...
The Victim Personality Explained: Overcoming Codependency
Let’s talk about the Attachment Personality of the Victim. Firstly, what is an attachment personality pattern? When you're born into a family Dynamic particularly one that is dysfunctional. toxic, abusive, or addicted, you start scrambling and hustling to try to...
The Fixer Attachment Personality Pattern: Overcoming Codependency
5 Core traits of a FIXER Attachment Personality Pattern: Overcoming codependency When I was a little girl, right in my back yard was a tall tree. It was just the right tree for climbing into, settling into a little windy branch, and pretending to be in my invisible...
The Controlling Attachment Personality Pattern: Controlling Codependent.
The controlling Attachment Personality Pattern Most of the articles you read about a controlling person will actually be describing an abusive person. And that’s simply because all abusive people are controlling. But the fact is, all controlling people aren’t abusive....
The Withholder Attachment Personality Pattern: Overcoming codependency and the fear of intimacy.
How withholding sabotages intimacy and prevents you from having the relationships you want. When we are born into a family of dysfunction, we find a way to function. We develop a way of being that allows us to survive, thrive, connect, or cope. I call these...
How to stop negative self talk
Do you have a tape in your head that never shuts up, always telling you how you’re screwing up? Does it judge you without mercy, constantly comparing you to others and reminding you of your limits, deficiencies, and inadequacies? The relationship that has the...
How to love yourself. What is self love when you’re overcoming codependency?
Over the years, I’ve coached thousands of people who are in toxic, dysfunctional or unhealthy relationships and I always ask the same question:,” What do you think is the number one thing you can learn that will set you free from all of these dysfunctional toxic...
Heidi Rain McGuirk
Heidi McGuirk is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Addiction Professional and Master Certified Empowerment and Relationship Coach. She specializes in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. She is co-creator of the Revolutionary Family Program and Love Yourself First Empowerment School.
It’s her passion to equip and certify those who want to help others through her Empowerment Coach University.
Heidi held an esteemed faculty position at one of the world’s leading drug and alcohol treatment centers where she created empowerment programming and facilitated psychoeducational lectures, seminars and group therapy. This experience with thousands of clients over many years, led to the creation of much of her life changing curriculum and proprietary methods.
Heidi blends her vast professional experience, world class education and personal experience to create exceptional results with her students and clients..
She has a unique understanding and fresh perspective which helps her to truly get results with those she helps.
Her riveting style of using humor and candor encourages and inspires people to heal.