Heidi Rain, Addiction and Relationship Expert. Creator of The LYFE System for Relationship Trauma Recovery. 

Are you Running a Toxic Relationship Pattern?

Heidi Rain’s Toxic Attachment Personality Pattern Test is the answer you’ve been looking for to gain radical insight into your troubling relationships.

This accurate (I promise it is, even when you’re surprised by your results) assessment of codependent attachment patterns is the only one of its kind.

You’ll unlock hidden behavior patterns keeping you from the love you deserve.

Identify Your Unique Attachment Programming

Learn the hidden dysfunctional and toxic patterns that keep you stuck, struggling, or suffering in your relationships

Understand how the difficult people in your life are programmed

Learn what it takes to break free from these patterns for good

Can a relationship with an addict or alcoholic ever work? Should you stay or should you go? How do you heal from a toxic relationship? Can you fix your relationship?


These are just some of the questions I help my clients answer. And solving these problems, changes their lives.

Hey there, I’m Heidi Rain and I specialize in addiction, codependency and toxic relationship recovery.

After decades of mastery in the arena of addiction and codependency though a combination of  knowledge, skills, and experience, I’ve been left with tremendous insight into your unique challenges and the solutions that produce results.

Said a simpler way… I get the link between addiction and relationships. I can help you survive it, navigate it, figure it out, and be happy again.

Unhealthy relationships involving addiction make smart people feel crazy.

You feel like a hot mess express: on a runaway train of confusion, outrage, anxiety, depression and disbelief.

This is your stop. I’ve got you.

I’ll help you get absolute clarity and certainty about what to do next in your toxic or codependent relationship.

Answer the questions, “Should I stay or should I go?” , “How do I survive another’s addiction?” and “How do I heal from codependency and toxic relationships?”

You’ll be expertly guided, every step of the way to peace, love, sanity, and yes! Believe it or not…happiness, again.



Dealing with an addicted, toxic, or dysfunctional relationship and need to know exactly what to do to fix this situation.

  • Confused? You want to figure out if this is really your person. Should you stay or should you go?

  • Determined? You know this relationship is worth fixing and you want to know exactly what to do to help them get better step by step.

  • Tired?  You keep attracting unhealthy relationships and you want to stop.

  • Ready to heal? You know your past is still affecting you and you need tools for a breakthrough.

  • STUCK?  You Want to heal. But what you’ve been doing isn’t working. Traditional recovery methods don’t work? You need a NEW way?

  • I’d love to meet with you for a strategic session where you can tell me all the details about what’s happening in your life. I will give you my complete analysis of your situation and create a personalized action plan for you.  

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About Heidi Rain

Heidi Rain, Theologist, Author, Speaker, Mentor, D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction and Relationship Expert is the creator of the  LYFE School Recovery System.  Her books, speaking engagements, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family.  Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good.

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Coach Heidi  changed my life. I enrolled in the program after coming to the realization that some of my relationships were not healthy ones. I knew I was a good person with a good heart and couldn’t figure out why I kept drawing projects instead of partners. I consider myself an intelligent, professional kind, and loving woman but some of my relationships didn’t reflect who I was, and I couldn’t figure out why. I had to take a good look at myself. Heidi helped me realize because of my dysfunctional abusive childhood, I had become Codependent and had learned how to function in dysfunction. I learned in LYFE school that my personality attachment patterns were the people pleaser and the fixer. As a people pleaser I would sometimes say yes when I really wanted to say no. As the fixer I wanted to be the one that rescued. I was that Wonder Woman all for the sake of LOVE. Love that I was still seeking as a little girl from my mother. LYFE school helped me discover I am worthy of love without any extra, just being who I am is enough. I am enough and my value is priceless. I have learned through LYFE school how to set healthy boundaries and I have learned to see people for who they are regardless of their titles or labels.

I am FREE and I walk in my Freedom without any apologies, but most importantly I have learned how to Love and honor ME. 

Grateful for my Angel

Loria G


Heidi is a wizard at getting to the core of deep rooted issues and helping people navigate a path to self-love and acceptance by breaking unhealthy thoughts and behavior patterns. She was able to help me change my perspective in order for personal growth and I have since incorporated her curriculum into my own practice as a licensed clinical therapist.

Heidi was not only integral in my own treatment but I’ve witnessed her facilitate remarkable change in many people’s lives. Heidi is one of the most relatable life coaches and mentors I’ve ever been involved with and I am proud to call her my friend. Her expertise in relationships, self-worth/love and addictions combined with her personal experience and humor allow her to teach individuals how to truly redefine their belief systems and change dysfunctional thought patterns and behaviors which ultimately lead to lives of fulfillment.

As the director of an intensive co-occurring disorders program, Heidi has allowed me to be more comfortable in using my personal experience as a teaching tool and gain confidence as a leader. I often use her methods and teachings to promote discussion and I make a concerted effort to emulate her ease of connectedness in presentation style.

Heidi’s expertise combined with her ability to exercise change is brilliant and, in my opinion, unparalleled. Her efficacy is a true testament to the powerful work she does. Just ask any of her students.

Meagan Gaine


When I met Heidi I was in a horrible place. Dealing with a fiancé facing addiction and in rehab. She was the one person who would tell me like it was with no filter. She has taught me about co-dependency and learning how to break free from toxic relationships. At my lowest point, she was the hand that reached down to help me pull myself up. I cannot imagine where I would be today had I not met this most amazing soul. She is passionate about her wants to help others. And she is smart beyond her years. I truly feel that you have had to walk in the trenches to understand how to help pull others out. She is beyond one of the most intricate parts of my recovery and I value her as my coach, my confidant, and my friend.

Tammy Inge

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