you’re allowed to have the best life has to offer!  Let me help you stop settling,self-sacrificing,and sucking it up so you can  have the relationships and life you deserve!

Are you codependent?

You’re afraid if you say no, they’ll take their love away. so, you feel taken advantage of, hurt, used, and disrespected.

You’re a fixer in your relationships. You choose people who are broken. You believe in your heart if they can just be the person you know they can be, they’ll be happy. But they always fall short, leaving you hurt, tired, and resentful.

You smile and pretend you’re not bothered by how they treat you.You don’t like to be vulnerable because it makes you feel weak. And even though you suck it up and pretend you’re fine, you’re devastated. 

You’re smart. But you can’t figure out why you keep letting yourself get hurt. You keep giving one more chance, hoping this will be the time they see your value and stop screwing  up, but they don’t. 

You want to be able to trust people, but the truth is, you believe the only person you can count on is yourself.

You secretly wish you could be rescued from having to do it all.

You wonder if you made a mistake. Did you settle? You wanted more, but you thought this was a good as it was going to get, even though it’s not what you really want. You stay, thinking, this is the bed you made. Loyalty matters to you. So, even though you’re miserable and lonely, you stay.

You believe if you just hang in there long enough, they’ll change. But they don’t. 

You don’t mean to do it, but you know you push new people’s buttons. You test their loyalty. You’re just trying to see how long it will take before they abandon you. 

You’re afraid of hurting people you love, so you try and be nice. You censor yourself. You don’t want to rock the boat or make anyone feel bad.

You’ve tried to be who they need you to be. You morph yourself into the most attractive version of yourself, so they like and approve of you. But deep down, you feel like no one really knows you. You’re ok with that because you believe if they really knew you, they’d reject you.

What is this behavior costing you?

Your life.

I get it…

If you had met me back in 2008, you’d have thought I had it all. I was traveling the world as an international business consultant. I’d march into the board room in my pencil skirt, set down my latest LV bag and run the world.

But that wasn’t the whole story.

The truth was, I was alone even though I went to bed with my 10 years too long boyfriend. I’d lay awake at night full of anxiety wondering what it would be like to be with someone willing to put me first.

I’d wake up with a hangover from the 2 bottles of wine I drank the night before hoping to forget about the fact I was totally resentful and burnt out.

I’d hide the rest of the brownies in the bottom of the trash and pour coffee grinds on them so I wouldn’t be tempted to binge again.

I’d suit up for battle the next day and soldier on.

No one knew what was really going on because I was an incredible performer. My life was about projecting who I wanted you to see not about being who I really was.

 I was the consummate people pleasing overachiever.

But no amount of success was enough, because I never felt enough.

I would lay my head on my pillow at night and wonder “Is this life? Is this really all there is?”

I knew what I wanted. I wanted two things: True love and authentic happiness.

 It all came to a head in 2009, when I lost my big money job, ended my relationship and moved back home to my alcoholic father’s house. I was 35, heartbroken, alone, and desperate to change. I felt like I had wasted enough time and it was now or never to get my shit together. For Real.  No more faking it.

The truth is, you CAN have the relationships you deserve, but you’re going to have to learn to love yourself first (for a change).

Everything you want in life starts with learning to Love Yourself First. When you love yourself, anything is possible.

It’s not a new concept, but I’ve create  a radical new way of approaching it.

Most people confuse self-love with self-care

I’m not talking about bath bombs here. The reality is, there aren’t enough bath bombs and manicures in the world to compensate for a deep seated belief you aren’t enough.

When I speak of learning to love yourself First, I’m talking about a PROVEN step by step SYSTEM.

I created a systematic approach to healing all your dysfunctional and codependent behavior that prevents you from being who you were born to be and attracting the relationships you deserve.

 That’s why I created LYFE School: Love Yourself First Empowerment.

LYFE School is a complete self-love system designed to fix your dysfunctional relationships and empower you to create the life you deserve.