What if you’re successful in every other area of your life except the one that matters most?

What if you’re successful in every other area of your life except the one that matters most?

If you had met me in back in 2008, you would have thought I was a huge success story. As an expert in the Relationship Industry. I was masterful at helping others find love and I was rewarded for it. I was traveling the world, had a six figure income, Louis Vuitton luggage, and a confident exterior. But that wasn’t the whole story.

The truth was,  I was lonely and depressed.

I was ANXIOUS all of the time. 

At my core, I felt unlovabale and empty.

I was always afraid of being “found out” because I was pretending in my own life.

No one knew what was really going on because I knew how to put on a happy face.

I was the consummate people pleasing overachiever.

But no amount of success was enough, because somehow, I always felt like I was falling short.

I was never enough.

I would lay my head on my pillow at night and wonder “Is this life? Is this really all there is?”

And I used alcohol and food to fill the void.

All I ever really wanted but never felt like I had was TRUE HAPPINESS.

 

It all came to a head in 2009, when I lost everything and moved back “home”. I was in my 30s, heartbroken, alone, and desperate to change.

I felt like I had wasted enough time and it was now or never to get my shit together…authentically. No more pretending. No more faking it.

And so, I began the journey to Happily Even After. I had to overcome a lot of problems that were keeping me stuck.

• I had issues around trying to be perfect all of time
• I didn’t feel worthy unless I was earning love somehow
• I didn’t trust anyone. I didn’t know how to be vulnerable
• No one was meeting my expectations, including me
• I didn’t know how to get my needs met without feeling needy or guilty
• I didn’t know how to speak up for myself in a way that wasn’t aggressive or passive aggressive.
• I was living in the hurt of past relationships

I knew deep down that the self-destructive behavior was due to a lack of self-love.

 

And I knew the solution for me was going to be Learning to Love Myself.

People had said that to me my whole life. “Heidi, you need to learn to love yourself.”

They told me because although I was successful in the traditional terms: money, house, “stuff”, I didn’t have what really mattered: LOVE and TRUE HAPPINESS.

My relationships sucked.

I didn’t have a healthy relationship with myself, others, food, or alcohol.

And can I tell you that every time someone said that to me, I got pissed!

I think I got so mad because even though I knew it was true, no one was really teaching HOW to freakin do it.

I’d only heard people spout off about long baths, manicures, and massages. To me, that was all band aids on flesh wounds. And it wasn’t going to cut it.

Besides, I did most of that stuff, and I still hated myself.

So, after some serious soul searching, I asked myself two questions.

1. What do I really want.

2. What am I no longer willing to tolerate in my life?

And out of those 2 questions, came my personal manifesto for self-love.

7 distinct vows emerged.

I call them my PROMISE Method.

And out of those vows, my Love Yourself First Program was born.

Once, I got sober from food and alcohol, I started teaching my self love strategies at one of the countries leading drug and alcohol treatment centers. And year after year, I took hundreds of people through my process.  And they experienced radical results.

And then, I thought…

What about the people who aren’t alcoholics?

What about the people who don’t need treatment, but something has got to change?

What about the people who are highly functioning and truly successful in every other area of life except for the one that matters most?

What about the people who are just like I was?

For you, I want to be the answer! 

If you had met me in back in 2008, you would have thought I was a huge success story. As an international business consultant,I was masterful at helping others find success and I was rewarded for it. I was traveling the world, had a six figure income, Louis Vuitton luggage, and a confident exterior. But that wasn’t the whole story.

The truth was,  I was lonely and depressed.

I was ANXIOUS all of the time. 

At my core, I felt unlovabale and empty.

I was always afraid of being “found out” because I was pretending in my own life.

No one knew what was really going on because I knew how to put on a happy face.

I was the consummate people pleasing overachiever.

But no amount of success was enough, because somehow, I always felt like I was falling short.

I was never enough.

I would lay my head on my pillow at night and wonder “Is this life? Is this really all there is?”

And I used alcohol and food to fill the void.

All I ever really wanted but never felt like I had was TRUE HAPPINESS.

 

It all came to a head in 2009, when I lost everything and moved back “home”. I was in my 30s, heartbroken, alone, and desperate to change.

I felt like I had wasted enough time and it was now or never to get my shit together…authentically. No more pretending. No more faking it.

And so, I began the journey to Happily Even After. I had to overcome a lot of problems that were keeping me stuck.

• I had issues around trying to be perfect all of time
• I didn’t feel worthy unless I was earning love somehow
• I didn’t trust anyone. I didn’t know how to be vulnerable
• No one was meeting my expectations, including me
• I didn’t know how to get my needs met without feeling needy or guilty
• I didn’t know how to speak up for myself in a way that wasn’t aggressive or passive aggressive.
• I was living in the hurt of past relationships

I knew deep down that the self-destructive behavior was due to a lack of self-love.

 

And I knew the solution for me was going to be Learning to Love Myself.

People had said that to me my whole life. “Heidi, you need to learn to love yourself.”

They told me because although I was successful in the traditional terms: money, house, “stuff”, I didn’t have what really mattered: LOVE and TRUE HAPPINESS.

My relationships sucked.

I didn’t have a healthy relationship with myself, others, food, or alcohol.

And can I tell you that every time someone said that to me, I got pissed!

I think I got so mad because even though I knew it was true, no one was really teaching HOW to freakin do it.

I’d only heard people spout off about long baths, manicures, and massages. To me, that was all band aids on flesh wounds. And it wasn’t going to cut it.

Besides, I did most of that stuff, and I still hated myself.

So, after some serious soul searching, I asked myself two questions.

1. What do I really want.

2. What am I no longer willing to tolerate in my life?

And out of those 2 questions, came my personal manifesto for self-love.

7 distinct vows emerged.

I call them my PROMISE Method.

And out of those vows, my Love Yourself First Program was born.

Once, I got sober from food and alcohol, I started teaching my self love strategies at one of the countries leading drug and alcohol treatment centers. And year after year, I took hundreds of people through my process.  And they experienced radical results.

And then, I thought…

What about the people who aren’t alcoholics?

What about the people who don’t need treatment, but something has got to change?

What about the people who are highly functioning and truly successful in every other area of life except for the one that matters most?

What about the people who are just like I was?

For you, I want to be the answer!